SPOILER WARNING This entry contains spoilers for the Netflix show 13 Reasons Why. If you haven’t seen or finished the show, and don’t want spoilers, I highly advise to turn back now.

If you have finished the show then you know there is also a TRIGGER WARNING for rape, violence, and suicide.

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The show as a whole is great. As hard as some of the scenes were to watch, I feel like they were completely necessary. It really helped convey the emotions. I think this is definitely a show that both parents and teenagers need to watch. Teenagers so they know they aren’t alone and parents so they can have a better understanding of what goes through a kid’s head at times like these.

Some of the things that happen to Hannah seem small. But when you look at the whole picture you realize that everything just piled on. This is why it’s so important to not do the things that seem stupid and small. Like Tony says, you never know what someone is going through. What may be small and insignificant to you might be the straw that breaks the camels back to someone else, or even start a snowball effect like it did with Hannah.

What really got me though is that I couldn’t help but stop being so concerned about Hannah and start worrying about the other characters. Jessica, for example. While I absolutely feel for Hannah that she was raped, the truth of the matter is Hannah is gone. Jessica is still around. I stopped feeling upset for Hannah and started feeling heartbreak for Jessica. I think Clay went through the same thing. While he wanted justice for Hannah, when he got to Jessica’s rape he wanted to help her. Hannah was on his back burner. I have to say I respect him for that.

Watching the school flop around trying to avoid a lawsuit rather than trying to actually worry about the safety of the kids was terrifying. Mainly because it seems like that’s exactly how things would go. The depression and suicide awareness bull shit forum that they tried to hold was laughable. To be fair, that part wasn’t all the school’s fault. The material they have out for spotting depression isn’t 100% accurate. There are so many people who are high functioning depressives. They are the fake it till you make it crowd. On the outside, what they show the world, is the polar opposite of the internal struggle they deal with every day. I think that’s part of the reason this show is so important. It will hopefully start the conversation.

What it really all comes down too is that I hope this show helps. I hope it not only starts the conversation but also helps end the stigma. The stigma surrounding mental disease is both horrifying and terrible. Especially when you’re a teenager. People love to just tell you that you’re just feeling normal teenage angst or that you need to just get over something because it’s small and insignificant. Even if you’re not depressed or don’t have any other mental health issues, being a teenager can be pretty hard. Your brain is not fully developed and you don’t quite know how to process things properly all the time. The smallest things can seem like they are the end of the world. I think it’s important for us as parents to not only listen to our kids but to remind them that it will be ok and help them through whatever it is they are going through, even if it seems small to us.

I really hope they do a 2nd season. I found myself really worrying about the other kids.

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